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Michelle Lara / December 1, 2015

Changing Your Perspective For A More Positive Life


That time of year has sprung up on me … no not the holidays {although it feels like Labor Day was yesterday, I can’t fully comprehend that Thanksgiving is behind us already!}. My birthday is tomorrow and this year it’s a BIG one, I’ll be 35! I’m really excited about it. I’m not big on birthdays, not in the sense that I shy away from growing older {I actually embrace it}, but more in the sense that I don’t make a big deal about it by planning parties or an elaborate dinner but something about 35 feels exciting. I felt like I should celebrate it so I planned a not-so-fancy GNO at a local wine and painting studio that I’m really looking forward to. 

I’ve been in a real great space lately and although not everything is exactly how I envisioned it would be that’s OK. I’m comfortable with the direction my life is going and embrace the not-so-great moments that come with being a busy wife, mom and business owner. 

Its hard to believe that only 10 years ago I was 25.  At 25 I was a brand new mom, and some of you know motherhood comes with a certain amount of anxiety and of course lack of sleep. I think what has changed most is my perspective on life. In my early twenties I put a lot of pressure on myself to do better that I didn’t realize that I was doing better – every single day I was moving towards better and some days ‘better’ is just getting through the day and that’s OK.

My motto for this year is ‘Be Salt + Light’. It’s a reference that I learned about recently at church it’s from Matthew 5:13-16. For me putting this into practice in my daily life means means ‘flavoring’ the world with positivity, love and hope. By shining my light as dim as that light might feel at times I could make a change {even small} in the life of someone else. 

We all have a light within us and spreading that positivity although it sounds cliche really makes a huge impact on others. Living this way is very intentional and requires not only valuing people but adding value to people. That’s the hard part right … how do you intentionally add value {daily} to the lives of others? 


This week I heard Dr. John Maxwell speak on this very subject and I walked away with some insight that I wanted to share:

  • If God has given you a dream be faithful to it
  • Live a life that truly matters
  • There is no insignificant act
  • If your life is going to matter you need to see the BIG picture

5 Things To Do Daily To Live A Positive Life:

  1. Value people {yes everyone, including that annoying coworker/relative etc.} 
  2. Think of ways to add value to people. 
  3. Look for ways to add value.
  4. Do things that add value.
  5. Encourage others to add value to people. 

These are actions that require thought and care. Kindness doesn’t have to be a huge gesture – it’s in the small things. It’s about connecting with people. It’s taking the time to not only say ‘how are you today?’ but actually caring about the response. For me I tend to live in my own bubble going about my day and not really intending to be kind.

I say please, thank you , smile, go to church, volunteer, but I don’t wake up with the purpose of adding value to someone. For me I never really thought about it – being kind happened when the opportunity arose I was never looking for ways to add value to others. 

My goal this year is to live with intention and be  ‘Salt + Light’ – it’s the greatest gift I can give myself for my birthday!


  • Erin Westermeyer

    Girl! You are like a soul sister! Love this. I feel the same way about being faithful to God-given dreams and just “flavoring” the world with what God put in us. Right there with you. :) And HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

    • Michelle Lara

      Thanks so much Erin!